Updated: Dec 15, 2020
When you are looking for a Matchmaker in Austin, most likely this means you have already tried many other ways to meet that special someone. After exhausting all other avenues like dating apps, random encounters, and blind dates set up by well-meaning friends and families, many eligible singles turn to Austin Matchmakers for help. When you are looking for a Matchmaker in Austin, there are many questions you need to ask. Hiring a matchmaker is an investment, and you need to treat it accordingly. Matchmaking is just like any other industry. There are reputable Matchmakers and ones that will take advantage of you by giving you false promises.
The first thing you need to do is some due diligence as to the background of the company. You can do this by looking at sites like Manta, the BBB, and Crunchbase. Look at who the Principals of the company are, where they are headquartered, have they ever been sued, have they frequently changed their company name. Also look at Ripoff Report and Consumer Affairs. This can help you weed out some of those claiming to be honest and ethical Matchmakers, but who have a somewhat shady past. And don’t rely fully on online reviews, many of them, both good and bad, are fake so its important to utilize other more reliable resources.
Next, as you think about what questions you should ask a Matchmaker in Austin, you should start by keeping track of the questions they ask YOU. They should be asking you questions to get to know you better and not just trying to make a quick sale.
Be careful about meeting with a Matchmaker who makes a big deal about asking you to “bring a credit card with you as a second form of ID”. That is a sign that you may be entering a high-pressure sales environment where they hope to find a way for you to use that credit card besides identification.
TO MAKE AN EDUCATED DECISION ON WHAT MATCHMAKER IN AUSTIN IS BEST FOR YOU, I RECOMMEND ASKING THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS AHEAD OF TIME:
1. What is their business model, national or local?
A national model works great if you are open to relocating and it is logistically possible. These logistics can possibly include having to change jobs, sell your house, and maybe even having to hire an attorney to restructure your child custody agreement with your ex . Is relocating truly a realistic option for you? Also, keep in mind that you will have to foot the bill to fly to other cities to meet your matches, adding additional expense to the cost of finding love.
However, if you are looking to only date in Austin then ask yourself how working with a multi office or franchise company will enhance your chances of finding love in Austin? These larger companies have a tremendous amount of overhead meaning your membership fee will go into employee salaries, office rents, and expensive advertising. Just because a company has an ad in an airline magazine doesn’t mean they are able to provide you with a personalized local search in Austin. Smaller companies normally stay true to the company’s core values, have a better understanding of their client-base, and have a Matchmaker that has been with the company since its founding. Nobody cares more about client satisfaction that the owner of the company.
2. How many years of experience does your potential Matchmaker have?
Most Professional Matchmakers have been in the industry for years even before they got a business card. Some have even said that they’ve been pairing people since they were kids — it was just in their genes. But remember to always check the Matchmaker’s Linked IN profile as well as Google to see what their background and qualifications are before hiring them and also how long they have worked at each employer.
3. Is this the Matchmaker’s full time job?
Many people claim to be an experienced Matchmaker in Austin, yet they are working at Susie’s Nail Salon at the same time. If they don’t work there full time, it either means they are not that interested in the profession, or that the company is trying to convince you they must be successful since they have all these employees. Alsop a “job hopper” type may not be your Matchmaker for the duration of your membership and then you have to start all over again with someone else.
4. Is the person that sold me my membership going to be my Matchmaker?
Many of these companies pay their sales people on commission and they don’t care if the company is going to be able to find you matches or not. They just want to make the sale so they get paid and to fulfill their monthly quota that their compensation is based on. You need to make sure the person who is making you promises is the one who will actually be keeping them.
5. How long has my Matchmaker worked for this company?
If they have worked there less than a year, be sure to find out where else they have worked. I would recommend again to look at the company’s employees’ Linked IN Profiles prior to even agreeing to meet with them. You might even want to look on Glass Door to see if they have had any disgruntled employees. There is nothing wrong with new people going to work for a Matchmaker, just make sure you know that the person who will actually be doing your matchmaking is qualified and experienced to help you.
6. How many matches will I receive per month?
Ideally, you should be receiving 1-2 quality matches per month. A quality match is someone that falls within the search parameters discussed during your interview. If they tell you you’ll get 6 or less matches in a year, or hedge the number of matches they will provide you entirely, that may mean they don’t have enough people in their database to match you with.
7. Do I get to approve the matches before I meet them?
Some of these companies will give you a brief bio over the phone and not confirm any of your deal breakers or must haves and tell you to simply trust their judgement. Make sure you will receive a written biography of potential matches that includes how they compare to your preferences and requirements for a match, and that you have the ability to reject the person if you disagree with the matchmaker about whether the person is a fit for you. The Matchmaker in Austin should give you a written full biography of the person that includes a description of their appearance, their education, their profession, relationship history, children, ideal match qualities, what makes them a good partner, hobbies, interests, and a myriad of other important criterion that goes into determining compatibility. They should be able to tell you up front what information you will receive and show you samples from others that make it easy to tell how and why the person was selected for you.
8. What is the feedback process after each date?
A reputable and experienced Matchmaker in Austin will have a documented date follow up process with specific questions they ask both parties. Matchmaking works best when date feedback is used by you and the matchmaker to improve the process and bring you matches who are better suited for you each time.
9. What specific services will I be receiving from you?
They should be able to provide you with a written document of all the things they will be doing for you as well provide you with a copy of the contract stating the specific services.
10. How do they find you your matches?
A reputable matchmaker in Austin should be able to explain clearly to you the process and sources they use to find potential matches for you. If a matchmaker is really on the ball, they should be able to have 2-3 matches already identified by the end of your initial consultation. They also know that recruiting is an essential part of finding clients their perfect match. If they say they only match you with other paying clients, that means you may be extremely limited in the options you are presented. In the event they are not based in Austin, they may say they work with other local matchmakers to find you matches and but what you don’t realize is they have to pay fees to them, again this expense will be passed on to you.
11. How do you decide who is a good match for who?
Are they just matching on hobbies and interests? Studies show that shared hobbies are a very low indicator of compatibility. Are they just matching on broad categories like age range and location? If the factors used to match are too broad, you may be flooded with potential “matches” that don’t match at all. A trained and experience Matchmaker should be able to give you specific criteria they use to determine what makes a good match. The criteria should be clear, consistent and make sense to you.
12. What will you be telling potential matches about me?
What a date is told about you ahead of the initial date can really affect the outcome. Ideally, your match should be told enough about you to make sure they are interested and that you align with what they are looking for. A reputable Matchmaker in Austin will prepare for you a professional bio that you get to approve to set the stage for your dates.
13. Will the people you are matching me with be matched with other clients at the same time?
Some dating services or people who call themselves matchmakers will recycle the same people to multiple clients at a time which will contradict their claim of providing a custom search. Ideally, you should work with a matchmaker who presents you with a person who is the best match for you and only you. They should have a broad enough base of potential matches that they don’t need to send out the same person over and over again.
14. How many clients do you work with at a time?
There is a direct relationship between the number of clients a specific matchmaker is serving and the quality of service all of them are being provided. Done right, matchmaking is a time-consuming, painstaking process that may involve scanning hundreds of potential matches to set up a single date. If you are talking with a service that has multiple matchmakers on staff, find out specifically who will be working with you, where they are located, and how many other clients they are currently serving. 20 clients per Matchmaker is a good rule of thumb.
15. What is your success rate?
This is such an important question because so many people think that the “success rate” of a matchmaker is the main reason to pick one firm over another. The fact is there is no standard way of measuring “success” and any service who is quick to quote a success rate is probably making up the statistic so they can give you the most favorable number possible. I have seen “success rates” being defined as the number of clients who successfully completed their contract term with no complaints, or the number of clients who got a second date, or some other statistic that they can actually measure and spin positively.
IF YOU THINK A SERVICE THAT CLAIMS AN 80% SUCCESS RATES MEANS 80% OF THEIR CLIENTS GOT MARRIED TO SOMEONE DURING THEIR CONTRACT, IT IS HIGHLY UNLIKELY.
Just consider these facts. Most matchmaking contracts are for a period of time of 6 months to one year. How many people do you know got married within 6 months to one year of the first time they ever met their spouse? Sure, it happens, but it doesn’t happen often. A better question to ask is “what do your customers typically tell you they have learned and taken away from this process when their contracts end?” Don’t fall for extreme optimism and a file full of beautiful women.
16. How often will your Matchmaker be in contact with you?
An experienced and reputable Matchmaker knows that every client is different and communication preferences need to be tailored to the person. There is no one size fits all for such a personalized service as Matchmaking. Make sure you and the Matchmaker agree on a communication schedule and style (i.e., via text, email, phone call, etc.) that works for you.
After all is said and done, you need to make sure that you like and trust your Matchmaker. This is because you will be working with your Matchmaker (or your matchmaker’s right-hand man) on a consistent basis normally during the course of one year. Choose a Matchmaker that knows how to listen, and expresses a true passion and understanding of this very important area of your life.