Updated: Dec 15, 2020
They say men are turned on by what they see, and women by what they hear.
But is that really true, Jennifer hayes?
Is attraction, for men, really all about looks?
Not even close.
Sure, there will always be certain men out there looking for their next “trophy” girlfriend; guys who prize women on their curves over their conversational skills.
But the good news is, there are far more guys who are attracted to a woman with whom they can connect emotionally and create a real partnership.
So if you’re not a supermodel (or even if you are!), I’m going to reveal
5 key facts about what men want in the woman they’ll connect with emotionally.
5 Qualities Men Want in a Woman (Much More Than Good Looks)
1. Men want to feel able to protect you
It’s not about how big his biceps are; it’s about how much he feels he can take care of you.
Maybe that sounds a little weird, but basically, even if a guy knows that you’re more than capable of taking care of everything in your own life, he still loves to hear you say to him, “I feel so safe around you” or, “You really know how to take care of me.”
2. Men want to know you think about them
We all love knowing that we’re in the thoughts of the person we love, and men are no different.
If you come home and say to him, “I was telling someone today what a wonderful man I have. She was complaining about her boyfriend and I started thinking how lucky I am to have someone like you,” he’ll immediately think of you in a more loving way.
Knowing that you talk about him in this way is a HUGE turn-on for guys. Of course, you only do this with a guy you’re already seeing, but when you do you can guarantee he’ll remember it.
3. Men want to hear you believe in them
What men want more than just about anything from their girlfriend is... faith.
Faith in him. Faith that he can get it done. Faith that he can move mountains if he sets his mind to it.
A man is dying to hear the words, “I believe in you.” Next time he gets excited telling you about his big plans, say to him, “If anyone can do it, you can.”
By doing this you instantly put yourself in the category in his head of the woman whom I cannot live without.
4. Men want to be able to care for you
Not all the time (because that’s just annoying), but sometimes, a guy just wants to be able to be the one you go to when you need putting back together again. Even saying something as simple as, “Your hugs always make me feel like everything will be OK” can be enough to make him feel needed.
Warning though: This only works if you are confident and strong as a person most of the time. A guy has no desire to take care of someone who always plays the “broken woman” who needs piecing back together.
Which leads me to my final point…
5. Men want to hear that you have self-belief
People mistakenly think that confidence is only a sexy trait in men. But it works both ways. Men love seeing a woman who is comfortable sexually, who believes in herself, and who takes charge of her own life.
What men want is to see their woman going out in the world and embracing her own independence; just as long as you show him that you want him with you on the way!