In my previous work in recruiting for the boatbuilding industry, I had so many single friends and knew so many great networks of people, and many of them told me they wanted to meet someone. But they were tired of online dating and wished there was some alternative, especially because they didn’t have very much time to devote to trying to find someone. I thought if I could bring people together who were truly good matches, that would be really fun. I’m a people person – I really love meeting new people and learning about them – and what could be better than using my connections to help someone meet the love of their life? If I can be part of that, I just love it.
How has the dating/marriage scene changed over the last twenty years?
I think the process of dating has become a lot less personal in the last twenty years. People are meeting online or texting each other. Sometimes there’s actually very little face to face contact, because people are so busy working that they sometimes don’t even have the time to sit down for dinner. I also think that dating now is simply more challenging. There isn’t a particular set of agreed-upon rules like there used to be about such things as who should pay. Also, there are now so many more ways to learn about who’s out there looking that people end up with a pretty endless selection of matches – most of whom probably just aren’t right for them. So the question becomes how to narrow down the pool to those with real potential. I help my clients – many of whom are coming out of a long relationship and haven’t dated for many years – to navigate all these new possibilities so they don’t waste time going down dead-ends. We look at the big picture – where they’ve been, what they want, and all available resources – and create a strategy for meeting someone with true potential as a long-term partner.
What relationship advice do you have for women?
I think the first thing that comes to mind is to be patient. Enjoy the experience of going on dates and meeting new people. Don’t overthink things, and stay positive. Don’t bring your past experiences to the table when you’re on a first date or embarking on a new relationship. Most importantly, be kind to yourself and trust your instincts.